What Did I Learn?

As we come toward the end of the school year in Australia, it’s time to sit back, relax and reflect on key moments and learnings from the year.

Connections and relationships make or break your leadership

Enough said! It’s possible to fall into a trap of maintaining quality relationships with people above you in the hierarchy whilst ignoring those lower in the org chart. This can only lead to problems. It’s not about being popular – it is all about respect and valuing the contributions of everyone in your organisation.

It’s not sneaky, it’s strategic…

My principal (@DarwinRose11) is a shrewd operator and a great inspiration to me. On a number of occasions I have observed her strategic thinking come to the fore. It was on one of those occasions that I commented that she was being sneaky. Her response, “I’m not being sneaky; I’m being strategic!” This has resonated with me throughout the year and has influenced me in a number of situations dealing with challenging issues within my team.

Doing what is right is often the hardest thing to do…

We are often faced with challenging situations that add significantly to our workload and can often take people away from their core business. I have been involved in performance support for a colleague that was not meeting expectations. The easiest option would be to ignore the person’s issues and support them to move to another workplace. But… can you sleep at night with this decision? Leaders need to be willing to do that hard yards and stand up for ‘good’. That can impact on your ability to undertake your normal responsibilities and be detrimental to work-life balance. It’s also the right thing to do. Poor performance in schools impacts the entire community. It is also a matter of perception. If your team do not believe that you are going to address inadequate performance or inappropriate behaviours then you are likely to be seen as a leader who can be walked all over, manipulated or ignored.

Look after yourself…

Sounds like common sense but too often we push our bodies (and minds) beyond their limits all in the name of work. This year I contracted Shingles as a direct result on intense stress. Admittedly, my family has been through the process of building our first home this year, but this was not the major stressor in my life. It was my job. I didn’t want to let people down. I wanted to be seen as strong and resilient, particularly because many of my colleagues were visibly struggling with the pressures that resulted from some big incidents. I ignored all of the warning signs because my principal was surviving and I believed that I could too. I didn’t. For anyone who has had Shingles, you will remember the excruciating pain and debilitating nature of the disease. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Since recovering, my wife has been my guardian angel, helping me to realise when I am overdoing things and when I need to take a rest.

Never, ever build a house and start a new job at the same time…

It’s really easy to take on too much in our lives. In addition to the above, I have grieved the loss of my grandmother (97 years old!) this year. She has always been my biggest supporter and believed in me. Sadly she didn’t ever get to see our house finished.

Your children are only young once…

I have missed all of my children’s school events, performances and celebrations this year because I was too focused on work. In fact, my only engagement with their schooling has been to attend a meeting with the principal when my son was getting himself into some trouble. Things have changed in the last few weeks. I am very excited to be going to see my daughter perform a song & dance act with her pre-school class tomorrow. It will be fun and work will survive without me.

As leaders, we can often take our work life a little too seriously. Life goes on if you miss a meeting. We have to look after our own wellbeing if we are serious about the wellbeing of our teams. There are times when we have to put in the extra hours to see something through to completion but this should not be the norm. Go home. Spend time with your family or just relax by your self. Enjoy these moments because there will be times when you have to take on the big issues. And always keep learning…

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